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Wednesday, May 18, 2011

I Honestly See The Predicament I Created

Honesty. It's a trait that we all want in our friends, family, co-workers and especially in our mates. but there in lies the potential problem. Alot of the times, we don't really want the truth. Or, as in my case, we tend to only say the important parts of it and leave out the parts that we feel are insignificant.
So, then the question becomes, how honest should you be with someone? We are all guilty of little white lies. No, we don't mind you calling so late. No, that dress doesn't make you look fat. I love that eyeshadow you are wearing. These are intended to not hurt the feelings of people we love. They are told because the fact is they are such minor things that they really don't impact our lives at all.
Lies of omission can sometimes be intentional or unintentional. This is the lesson I am learning in reflection at this very second. See, when we tell someone the truth and leave out parts that we don't feel are important or to keep us from getting in trouble or to not hurt someone. Those are lies of omission. We sometimes do this without even realizing it and it takes a splash of cold water to the face to let us know. The nature of the dishonesty often determines the outcome, but sometimes the intentions behind it are irrelevant.
They say the path to hell is paved with good intentions and it seems that is true.
So...let's say you do something to have your integrity questioned...how do you recover from that?
Sometimes, I'm not sure if you can and in some cases I'm not sure if you deserve it. The best you can do is admit your failings. And hope for the best. Your reasoning doesn't matter. It's the person that you've wronged that has final say.
I made a mistake, and without realizing it, became less than honest. 

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